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The best-known names in pickup and dating advice, what they taught, and the criticism.
The originals
- Famous pickup artists: who they are and what they taughtA fact-based guide to the best-known names in pickup, from Ross Jeffries and Mystery to Roosh V, Todd Valentine, and Matthew Hussey, and what each one teaches.
- Ross Jeffries and Speed SeductionWho Ross Jeffries is, how his NLP-based Speed Seduction worked, the techniques it taught, and the habits from it you can use in conversation this week.
- Mystery and the Mystery MethodWho Mystery is, what the Mystery Method teaches (phases, the three-second rule, DHV, group approaches), his books, and the VH1 show.
- Neil Strauss and The Game: the book that took pickup mainstreamHow Neil Strauss's 2005 book The Game brought pickup to a mass audience: who is in it, what it describes, what came next, and how to read it today.
- Real Social Dynamics and the rise of the pickup bootcampHow Real Social Dynamics built the in-field bootcamp: the format, the founders, the instructors who left to start their own brands, and a DIY version.
- Julien Blanc and the 2014 visa bansWhat happened in November 2014: the campaign against RSD instructor Julien Blanc, the visa decisions by country, his CNN interview, and what he did next.
- David DeAngelo and Double Your DatingHow Eben Pagan, writing as David DeAngelo, built Double Your Dating into a $20 million-a-year business, and what cocky and funny actually taught.
- Owen Cook (Tyler Durden): RSD's best-known coachWho Owen Cook is, how he co-founded Real Social Dynamics, what the company taught, and the documented 2014 events. Plus what to take from the bootcamp model.
- Love Systems and Nick SavoyLove Systems grew out of Mystery Method Corp. Here's who Nick Savoy is, what Magic Bullets teaches about daytime approaches, and what to try.
- Roosh V: the Bang books and his later turnRoosh V (Daryush Valizadeh) self-published the Bang travel guides, ran a forum, then converted in 2019, pulled his books, and closed the forum in 2023.
- Richard La Ruina and The NaturalRichard La Ruina founded PUATraining in London in 2007 and wrote The Natural. Here's what he teaches and what to take from it.
- Zan Perrion and The Alabaster GirlZan Perrion is a Canadian author behind Ars Amorata and The Alabaster Girl, a book written as a conversation on a train. What he teaches.
- Tom Torero and the rise of daygameTom Torero (Tom Ralis) wrote Daygame and the Conversation King course. What he taught about opening with statements, and what Newsweek reported in 2021.
Coaches today
- Esther Perel on desire and long relationshipsEsther Perel is a Belgian-born therapist known for Mating in Captivity, The State of Affairs and her podcast. Her main ideas, and what to try from them.
- Hamza Ahmed and self-improvement for young menHamza Ahmed is a UK-born YouTuber with about 2.2 million subscribers who covers fitness, discipline, reading and dating. What he makes and how.
- Logan Ury and How to Not Die AloneLogan Ury is a behavioral scientist and Hinge's director of relationship science. Her 2021 book, her three dating patterns, and ideas you can test.
- Marni Kinrys and The Wing Girl MethodMarni Kinrys is a dating coach who advises men from a woman's side and co-hosts a podcast on attraction. What she teaches and where to find it.
- Mark Manson's Models and the honest approachBefore The Subtle Art, Mark Manson wrote Models, a dating book built on non-neediness and honesty. What it teaches and how to put it into practice.
- Nick Kho (Papa) and the business side of pickupNick Kho, known as Papa, co-founded Real Social Dynamics. A look at how the bootcamp business worked, his role in The Game, and what to copy.
- Corey Wayne and How to Be a 3% ManCorey Wayne's advice is simple: keep approaches short, ask for the date, and use the phone to set plans. Here's what he teaches and how to try it.
- Todd Valentine and Todd V DatingTodd Valentine (Todd V Dating) is a former RSD instructor known for The System and daygame coaching. His methods, in his own words, and how to try them.
- Charisma on Command: social skills from YouTubeCharisma on Command passed 10 million YouTube subscribers teaching charisma as a skill. The book's formula, the Clinton eye-contact video, and drills.
- Kezia Noble: a woman coaching menKezia Noble has coached men on dating since 2006, wrote The Noble Art of Seducing Women, and runs a YouTube channel. What she teaches.
- Hayley Quinn's dating adviceHayley Quinn is a London dating coach, TEDx speaker, and author who once ghostwrote for pickup artists. Her approach to real-life dating.
- Simple Pickup: from prank videos to a dating companySimple Pickup was a 2011 YouTube channel where three men asked women for phone numbers on camera. Here are the numbers, the approach, and what Kong did next.
- Matthew Hussey and what women are told about datingMatthew Hussey coaches women on dating. His books, his YouTube channel, and the specific advice he's given, useful if you want to know how the other side is advised.
Books and channels
- Dating and social skills podcasts worth listening toNine dating and social skills podcasts: who hosts each, what it covers, which episode type to start with, and how often it publishes (checked October 2026).
- Helen Fisher and the science of attractionAnthropologist Helen Fisher (1945 to 2024) put people in brain scanners to study romantic love. Her three drives, four types and Match.com work, explained.
- John Gottman and the research on lasting relationshipsJohn Gottman studied thousands of couples in his Love Lab. The Four Horsemen, the 5:1 ratio and the Seven Principles, plus what applies before you commit.
- Pickup and dating books: what each one teachesA reading list of the main pickup and dating books, with years and what each covers, plus the non-pickup books that help with confidence and conversation.
- Robert Greene's The Art of SeductionWhat Robert Greene's 2001 book covers: the nine seducer types, the anti-seducer, 18 victim types, 24 maneuvers, and what readers can try from it.
- Pickup and dating YouTube channels worth watchingA guide to YouTube channels on social skills, daygame, and dating: who runs each, what it covers, and which video to start with for your goal.