The game
Ideas
- Push-pull: what it is and what to do insteadPush-pull is a pickup tactic that mixes signs of interest with distance. Where it came from, what research does and doesn't say, and honest alternatives.
- Social proof in dating: what it is and what's realSocial proof means people copy what others do. Where the idea comes from, what mate-choice copying studies found, their limits, and honest ways it shows up.
- Monk mode and dating: when it helps and when it's hidingMonk mode means cutting distractions, often dating, for a set period. When it helps, when it turns into avoidance, and a version with an end date.
- Inner game vs outer game: how to find which one to fixInner game is mindset, outer game is skills. How to diagnose which one is holding you back from your own log, with drills and weekly targets for each.
- Negging: what it is, where it came from, and what coaches teach nowNegging is a backhanded compliment from the pickup community: its late-1990s origin, how practitioners described its purpose, and the teasing coaches teach now.
- What frame means in pickup and how to hold a steady oneFrame is the context that gives a conversation its meaning. What Corey Wayne and Todd Valentine teach about it, plus drills and lines for holding yours.
- Sticking points: find the one stage where you stallA sticking point is the stage where you keep stalling. How to find yours from your log, with numbers to check, a drill for each stage, and a 4-week sprint.
- Outcome independence explainedOutcome independence means acting without needing a specific result. What it is, why coaches teach it, and a daily practice with numbers and exact lines.
- Abundance mindset in datingAbundance mindset means meeting enough people that no one conversation feels like your only shot. What it is, how to build it, with weekly numbers and lines.
